INFJ - Part II
This is Part 2 of being an INFJ.
Every INFJ will tell you that it is almost impossible to stop our minds from pondering over every little thing - it could be something trivial like a random bird that flew over your head or something deep like sharing vulnerabilities and fears. Somehow, we tend to formulate thoughts and analyse every SINGLE thing over nothing. And not just that... we tend to connect one simple thought or deduction to something else and something else and something else and something else.... it is so mentally exhausting.
I think the reason why we tend to do this is because we can somehow connect the physical (or tangible) world with the metaphysical (or abstract) world. I cannot really explain how the cogs in our minds work but I will try to give you an illustration.
For example, when I see someone walking a dog... Most people will be like "oh, ok, it's a common sight" or "awww... such a cute dog". But for me, I would be like "haha, the owner is busy using her phone and the dog is walking the owner! I wonder if the dog knows." and then that thought leads to "wouldn't it be nice to be a pet dog? do they know they are held hostage and do they mind?"
Another reason why I think we usually do this is because we like to see the big picture but we are also cautious to not miss out the small details. So we are constantly thinking, "ok, what are the pros and cons?" and "if I did this, what are the possible outcomes? If it is the first outcome, what next? if it is the second outcome, then how?" and "what is the contingency plan?" We might not know or get stuck on all the nitty gritty but we will definitely consider it. And again, it is so freaking tiring!
So... over the years, I realised the major reason why we cannot just STOP overthinking is because we cannot live in the present moment. You know YOLO used to be a thing? Well, as much as it sounds very appealing (and indeed, I am envious of people who live this way), it just does not seem plausible or responsible... because sometimes, one person's actions affect another and one person's life is intricately intertwined with so many other's.
I guess there is no conclusion to this post. It is just something interesting I thought (lol, the irony of it all... penning down my thoughts about overthinking and now, I am thinking if maybe I am thinking too much about lame things).
Hahahaha! And now, my head hurts. Let me go into "comatose"... Goodnight!
posted by Bel @ 22:45
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Hi Bel,
I enjoyed your blog. I hope you keep writing.
Just a few points to note:
- In a few years it won’t really matter where you graduated from (a top Uni or not) or what grades you got. You will be judged by what you can do, the difference you can make and how adaptable you are. The world is changing beyond what many can imagine, and the possibilities are endless as are the obstacles if you are fixated on a plan you made.
- Life throws you curveballs and there are times you feel that life’s not fair. But perspective matters and how you see something shapes what you get out of it. I was blessed with a boy in 2009 who was autistic, had sensory processing disorder, severe dyspraxia and visual convergence issues. Everyone felt sorry for me and there were times I struggled with my fears, my inadequacies, my career decisions and my frustrations with the life I was handed. But I can tell you now, that my severely autistic boy who had to cope with more problems than I could have ever imagined, was a gift. He changed me and showed me that sometimes impossible is a boundary we set.
- My 52 years on this earth has taught me that women are way superior to men, but many women choose not to believe it. Being a mother and a caregiver is a sacred task, which women should cherish. No one loves us like our mothers do. They define love for us and we use it as the yardstick all our lives.
- Your height doesn’t define you, nor does the size of your nose. It’s how you make someone feel. I remember people based on how they made me feel. And as we get older, that’s what we remember. So be a person people can approach, people can relate to, people can trust.
Keep writing. Keep believing in yourself and knowing that it is ok to be different and to think different.
“Here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes… the ones who see things differently — they’re not fond of rules… You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things… they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.” - Steve Jobs for a defining Apple ad in 1997
Best Regards,
Som
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