The Common Denominator

It has been a long time since I had last published anything on this platform but trust me, my mind is neither stagnant nor stale.

Tonight, I shall attempt to pen down my thoughts about the common denominator among us human beings, and that is, we all want to feel safe and sheltered and secure.

But sometimes, we assume comfort is equivalent to the above. It is not. Being comfortable just means we are used to the static and the stationary so we stick to the status quo. In other words, we become indifferent.

When we delve deeper and go beyond the illusion of comfort, sometimes, we are slapped with the truth that we are settling for something we do not deserve or desire.

There are times when I refuse to admit to myself that I am. There are times when I am inundated with all the signs and red flags but I put on my blinders just so I can go to bed. But I wake up at night in cold sweat. I toss and turn and find myself flip-flopping between one solution and another only to find myself staring at the ceiling as I watch the sun rise. And just like this, I have survived one night. Now, on to the next and let it re-play itself like a broken recorder.

I think we all have these poignant thoughts, these suppressed doubts, these burning questions about how we can do better for ourselves and how we can treat ourselves with more kindness so we feel lighter... so we can feel safer.

But it sounds too self-indulgent or worse, too defeatist to even consider that our current situation is one too demanding for us to handle.

Perhaps it is not about the situation to begin with... it is about how we feel about ourselves being in that particular situation.

I guess I need to pen down these introspective reflections because I have been binge watching Sons of Anarchy. I know, it's a television show and it sounds very vapid but trust me, said show will stir up some emotional shit storm in you. Pardon my use of dysphemism.

Anyway, back to the topic before I fan girl about Sons of Anarchy (and trust me, I will). I guess what I want to drive at is how expanding our comfort zone or even better, escaping from our comfort zone, may be key to reaching our common denominator. It will be frightening at first, foreign, even., but we do not live in an ideal world where things are handed to us without making conscious decisions. We live in one which is more likely than not, a chimera of an ideal. So cut the noose and let loose. Just take the plunge and go off the beaten track. I do not know where that will take us... but I know that we will sleep better.

I think we need to trust our visceral feelings more. If some things make us feel miserable, maybe it is because it is. There is no shame in coming to a conclusion that our current situation is utterly crappy. But there is if we do not do anything about it and then become comfortable in that cesspool.




(Hmmm... listening to Metallica while trying to put one's convoluted thoughts in writing is not recommended. But I hope I make sense)







Now, speaking of Sons of Anarchy, please watch this video: -